Relationship Blog
“What can I do when my client is struggling due to lack of self discipline or motivation?” 1. First, be sure the client is clear and excited about their big picture long term Vision and on board with the goals and action plans you’ve helped them develop for achieving it. If…
A mini marriage is an exclusive couple who is acting committed without actual commitment. Their mindset is not “single,” they consider themselves a “couple” and if you ask them if they are in a committed relationship they almost always will say “Yes,” even though…
What do you do if your client says they want a divorce? Welcome to the world of “pre-divorce coaching.” Just like “pre-commitment” is one of the five stages of relationship coaching that addresses “Is this the right relationship for me?” to provide clarity to…
When you are a helping professional of any kind- doctor, lawyer, accountant, therapist, coach, etc. it is common that when people you meet discover your profession that they will share with you their biggest problem related to your profession and ask your advice. Friends and family will too! You…
We have a lot of information about why giving your advice, opinions and suggestions isn’t effective for helping your clients, so let’s address why asking questions is the most important coaching skill. First, there are different types of coaching questions, such as questions for…
Coaching is a positive, goal oriented profession, but when we use the word “Goal” what do we really mean? In RCI coach trainings we emphasize Coaching Goals, Not Problems and Zooming Out to the client’s big picture Vision before Zooming In to strategize and address challenges…
I’ve noticed that most life and relationship coaches seem to understand the importance of “empowerment” and removing “ego” as important reasons for not playing “expert” and giving our coaching clients advice. When you’re helping functional people, this…
“You don’t need to be an expert to coach, you just need to apply your coaching skills expertly.” – David Steele The skills of professional coaching are universal and enable you to coach anybody about anything. But while you can coach “anybody,” you can’t…
Coaches seem drawn to limiting beliefs (sometimes referred to as “self-sabotaging thoughts” or “gremlins”) like moths to a flame. It is distressing as a coach to see your client holding themselves back and sabotaging themselves and you understandably want to do something…
