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Divorce or widowhood can be devastating and painful. After initially recovering from divorce or loss of a spouse and adjusting to your new life, “Is it too late to start over?” is a common question and a great sign that you’re ready to move forward because you want to believe that it\u2019s not too late.<\/p>\n
TIP #1: Rephrase “Is it too late to start over?”<\/em> to<\/strong> \u201cHOW can I start over?\u201d<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n One of the simplest and most powerful coaching strategies is to transform any self doubting or \u201cstuck\u201d question or statement by adding \u201cHow can I\u201d at the beginning as above. Try it!<\/p>\n The \u201cHow\u201d is simple (but not necessarily easy), and I\u2019ll answer that question below.<\/p>\n But first let\u2019s address the top 3 things that hold people back from successfully starting over in life to achieve fulfillment:<\/p>\n Obstacle #1: Fear vs Risk<\/b>– change is scary, and taking the risks necessary to make big changes is even scarier. We instinctively retreat to our comfort zone when encountering fear, which causes us to stay stuck.<\/p>\n Neale Donald Walsch said\u00a0\u201cLife begins at the end of your comfort zone.\u201d<\/i><\/p>\n Obstacle #2: Belief vs. Doubt<\/b>– if you don\u2019t believe it\u2019s possible it won\u2019t be, simple as that.<\/p>\n Napoleon Hill is often quoted as saying\u00a0\u201cWhat you believe you can achieve,\u201d\u00a0<\/i>and the opposite is true as well-\u00a0\u201cWhat you don\u2019t believe you won\u2019t achieve.\u201d<\/i><\/p>\n Obstacle #3: Self Esteem vs. Self Belief<\/b>– do you believe you deserve to be happy and successful?<\/p>\n Henry Ford said\u00a0\u201cWhether you believe you can or you can\u2019t, you\u2019re right.\u201d<\/i><\/p>\n Below are 5 strategies and 3 steps for \u201cRadical Living\u201d excerpted from my book Radical Marriage<\/a>. This would be my best answer to the \u201cHow\u201d question.<\/p>\n You only live once. Go for it!<\/p>\n 5 STRATEGIES FOR RADICAL LIVING<\/b><\/p>\n Strategy #1: Dream<\/b><\/p>\n Radical Action: Give yourself permission to dream. Realize that not only can you achieve your dream, but you can go far beyond that.<\/p>\n Strategy #2: Stay in the Question<\/b><\/p>\n Radical Action: Don\u2019t worry about how to make it happen. Seek solutions by asking questions and staying in inquiry. Continue asking the question even when the answer isn\u2019t clear and you will discover alternatives and answers and support that you didn\u2019t know was possible.<\/p>\n Strategy #3: Get Support<\/b><\/p>\n Radical Action: When you\u2019re having trouble, find someone who can either open the door for you or show you how to open it yourself.<\/p>\n Strategy #4: Keep Moving Forward<\/b><\/p>\n Radical Action: Once you\u2019ve experienced success with Radical Living, don\u2019t stop dreaming and striving. There is always another mountain after you\u2019ve reached the top of the one you\u2019re currently climbing.<\/p>\n Strategy #5: Believe<\/b><\/p>\n Radical Action: Take a leap of faith and believe that you can be loved for exactly who you are and that you can be fully supported to live the life you really want.<\/p>\n THREE STEPS FOR ACHIEVING YOUR BIGGEST DREAMS<\/b><\/p>\n Step #1: Identify Your Vision<\/b><\/p>\n Explore the purpose of your life, your values, and the lifestyle that you want to live. Ask yourself: \u201cWhat kind of work or career would make me most happy?\u201d \u201cWhat kind of family do I want?\u201d \u201cWhat do I want to do for fun?\u201d \u201cWhat would give my life meaning, purpose and fulfillment?\u201d<\/p>\n Step #2: Develop a Plan<\/b><\/p>\n Identify any challenges, then determine whether each challenge is a requirement, need, or want. Focus on the requirements first and develop a goal around that challenge. Figure out the outcome that you want from your challenge and determine the steps you need to take to reach that outcome. Develop an action plan and implement each item one small step at a time.<\/p>\n Step #3: Keep Moving Forward<\/b><\/p>\n Make plans and get the support you need to implement them. Without support you\u2019ll get stuck, guaranteed. I highly recommend finding a Professional Coach with excellent references and track record as this is exactly what a coach is trained to do- keep you moving forward to achieve your biggest dreams and goals, even the ones you might think are impossible.<\/p>\n Divorce or widowhood can be devastating and painful. After initially recovering from divorce or loss of a spouse and adjusting to your new life, “Is it too late to start over?” is a common question and a great sign that you’re ready to move forward because you want to believe that it\u2019s not too late. 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